Tuesday, 13 June 2017

Entitled To Be Unhappy.

I have a wonderful family, supportive friends, beautiful cats that give me endless love and snuggles, a roof over my head and lots to be proud of and happy about. But in spite of that sometimes I feel unhappy. And so does everyone else.

To add to it all I spend so much time hounding myself and making myself feel immeasurable amounts of guilt for feeling unhappy when I have so much to be happy about. This guilt weighs heavy on my mind and that in turn makes me feel so much worse.

I think the problem is that we're always told "it could be worse" and therefore we're taught to just bite our tongues, put our heads down and get on with it. Suck it up and pretend you're not hurting.
All because someone, somewhere has it worse.

And that's right. Someone out there does have it worse than you but how does that make you hurt less? How does that make your problems less significant? It doesn't.
You still feel that awful ache that sadness brings.

It's funny isn't it? We don't belittle other people's success and joy by reminding them that someone has it better. How ridiculous would that be! 
We don't punish ourselves for being happy but sadness is fair game? Both are human emotions that we all experience. They're there and they're demanding our attention. 

So yes, we are allowed to be sad. We're allowed to cry because things didn't work out or because today has been a hard day. We all have demons that call our names when we're in a bad place and insecurities that tear us apart. We don't have to justify our unhappiness either. If we're sad for no reason then that's okay. If we're sad because something on the news has upset us that's also okay.
We can be unhappy for whatever reason.
We are a human and being a human can be hard sometimes. That's not to say that we'll be unhappy forever. We are entitled to feel way more than that. There's an array of emotions all of which you and I are entitled to feel without judgement, guilt or hesitation.
No one should ever put a value on someone's unhappiness. Or their happiness for that matter.
We shouldn't have our lives put on a scale and measured to see if they're worthy or not.

I am entitled to be unhappy. We all are.



  1. i feel like this is such an important post. well done you! x


    1. Thank you, that means a lot to me. really hesitated before posting this but I'm glad I did :)

      Thanks for reading x